Gossip is one of the most popular pastimes for women. We love a good gossip fest, whether it’s about other friends, celebrities, or even bloggers we’ve never met. And as light and as innocent as it may seem to “share news,” it can cause real and serious destructions to relationships and the way we perceive ourselves and others.
The root of all gossip is insecurity. We gossip because we want to point at others’ faults and failures to prevent people looking at our’s. It’s a holier than thou perspective, and I think it is creating a culture of shallow, insecure women.
I once heard this saying:
Ouch! Stings a little bit doesn’t it?
Have you ever been hurt by a friend who has talked about you behind your back? If you’re a female older than the age of 12, then the answer is a big fat YES. And the pain we’ve experienced only increases our insecurities and distrust with one another. We tend to play it safe because, gosh I don’t want them talking about me again!
Of course there are times when you need to share your heart, your frustration, others’ news. But there is a very fine line from moving the conversation about facts and feelings to gossip and slander. I think we need to ask ourselves, If this conversation was recorded, how would I feel if this person listened to it? Do I want people I am gossiping to, to wonder if I’m gossiping about them?
As women it is so easy to turn against each other, and that’s exactly what Satan wants. He hates unity, fellowship, honesty. He thrives on us tearing down each other and in turn creating a sense of insecurity and distrust in each of us.
I am just as guilty as the next girl, and I want to work on this in my heart.
I want to be a girl that friends can come to in confidence that I won’t blab their news to everyone.
I want to protect my thoughts from judging others or coming up with ways that they are inferior, just to make myself better.
I want to take risks without worrying what others may say behind my back.
I want to think more and talk less.
I want to speak words of truth and love.
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. – Psalm 19:14